It's a Wonderful Life

This year our Christmas tree shrunk by six feet. Three-fourth of our ornaments never made it out of Birkenstock shoeboxes and we didn’t once watch Flick freeze his tongue to a flagpole or Clarence, the angel, ultimately earn his wings. My uncle and aunt were missing around the dinner table and for the first time in thirty years, we opted to assault the neighbor’s buffet on Christmas Eve instead of drying out the tilapia in our own oven.

It was a season that defied tradition. We did bake gingerbread cookies and my mom’s once-a-year raspberry bars that inevitably burn on the bottom, but they were more out of duty than festive fanfare. There was snow, copious amounts of driveway salt, and radio carols, but somehow the varnish seemed to be wearing thin on our holiday gaiety. It was not a banner year for the Dressel household. There was illness and betrayal, depression and mania. There was adultery, addiction, anxiety, aging, and agoraphobia. There were 401K depletions, moving hassles, sleeping pills, career shifts, leaking roofs, and one divorce in a pear tree. Our 2008 calendar frankly read like a parody of the Twelve Days of Christmas.

On December 25th when I awoke and peered out across the wintry crust of meringue glazing our backyard, I didn’t feel magical, merry, or jingle-bell jolly. I felt queasy and irritated like a passenger boarding an airplane with an empty stomach. I tapped away at my computer, pretending to be preoccupied with important corporate emails and vital office tasks. The sun emerged, melting the snow banks on the roadsides into a Seven-Eleven Coca-cola slush. The hours ticked by. As my brother seasoned the filets, I dutifully pureed broccoli soup and popped open Cabernets with the cadence of a practiced waitress. By the time darkness descended, I found myself showered, dressed and even blow-dried. I genuinely looked the part.

And then they were here. Family and friends clustering in the doorway, discarding boots and mittens and shedding cold coats onto a mound forming on the leather chair. Suddenly, the house was chattering and alive, flushed with fireplace warmth and cranberry cashmere sweaters. For the first time that day, I relaxed into benign normalcy, calmed by the clamor and frenzy that I have come to recognize as Christmas.

After the meal, we loosened the buttons on our pants and sank into the family room couches. O’ Holy Night was playing on the stereo and I glanced around at the faces of those who share my genes, memories and history. Our modest tree’s colored lights danced off the windowpanes, showcasing ornaments from our annual December treks down to Marshall Fields and pancake breakfasts in the Walnut Room. Despite it’s stunted stature and mangy branches, the tree somehow radiated as the lustrous centerpiece that we had known in Christmas’ past.

My sister played ‘elf, passing out presents and gift cards in dutiful rotation. When the underbelly was bare, she handed me a square oak box with polished borders and an old-fashioned latch.

“This is for you, Em. Inside are letters. I collected them from all the people who wanted to tell you how much you mean to them. This is a box of love and support. From all of us.”

She hugged me. I swallowed and gripped the box with the intensity of a child climbing a tree trunk. My eyes watered and I blinked back the burning of tears.

You see, there are moments that defy articulating the precious privilege of having a sister. Someone with whom you can be naked, self-pitying, and unremarkable. She will offer soul and sweetness in the right doses and anchor you when you are your most uprooted. She is someone who senses when to push, pull, give, or take and synchronizes these needs with the ease of waving ribbons in the wind.

I retired Christmas this year with that box on my lap, reading and rereading messages from friends all over the country from many different phases and facets of my life. I was humbled. I cried, cackled out loud, smiled gregariously, and glowed in recognition. I was tickled by memories long forgotten and touched by eloquence. I can’t recall a time when I felt more whole.

Around 11:45pm, I ventured down to the family room and turned on the television to one of those stations that play around the clock holiday movies. Instantly, the room was filled with Bedford Falls townsfolk singing Auld Lang Syne while George Bailey embraced his family and cradled a copy of Mark Twain’s Tom Sawyer. The camera zoomed in on the inscription, “Remember George - No man is a failure who has friends.”

And then a bell rang.

I looked down at my watch, curled the fleece blanket around my shoulders and gratefully realized, I just got it in under the wire.